Don't worry about wasting grave flowers. You can always kill certain monsters for a bell bearing that will let you purchase them as much as you want. You only really need to save the one that gets them to + 10 ect. My first playthrough was the same especially with my stats but I ended up liking a lot of different things so I just made other characters and stuck to a specific build for them. Mimic tear ashes has honestly never helped e much. Everyone went on about how great it was but even pre-patch I think mine was autistic so I can't recommend it. Tiche is pgood but I dunno if you want to do Ranni's questline for her. Engvall and Oleg can be solid choices through most of mid game as well as Radahns soldiers. If you just want a spirit thats tanky af and holds aggro really well I'd recommend you do Ranni's quest to pick up the greatshield soldier ashes which summons like 5 skeletons all with greatshields. They don't do much damage but they tank a lot of damage and are great at...